I don’t know if it is just me, but I’ve been seeing a lot of “Living my best life” captions on social media posted underneath beautiful photos such as the beach, kayaking, dinner at an expensive restaurant, and many other luxurious pictures.
Tell me I’m not the only one, and that you’ve seen it too 😀
With the suicide rate at an all time high right now, I have also ‘liked’ plenty of posts that were being a helping hand to individuals who suffer from mental illness behind closed doors, in silence.
Although the spectrum to not battle mental illness alone is being covered, I realize and want to pin point the other side of things. The side that is so often lightly talked about, yet so often overlooked.
If I am being honest, I admit that when I saw those “living my best life” posts, I cringed a little. Seeing someone on a yacht or taking a trip to Italy made me wonder if I wasn’t actually living my best life because my life does not look like theirs. I mean, be honest, have you ever witness someone type “living my best life” under a photo taken of their kids at the park, which they’ve visited for the 3rd time this week? Yeah, didn’t think so.
And to be even more honest, if you aren’t careful enough not to get sucked in their “highlight reel”, it can lead to anxiety, depression, feeling hopeless, worthless, etc.
Although, I am not perfect, through trial and error I have figured out a few tips which help me stand my ground of contentment whenever I come across those “My life is so great, what about yours” posts. I’m hoping some (if not all) will help you do the same.
A picture doesn’t tell the whole story
When you are scrolling through social media (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc.) and come across someone’s page whose life seems “too good to be true” then chances are, they are only showing their highlight reel. Meaning, the only posts that make it to their page are the ones that display the high moments of their life.
So no, you don’t see them being angry on the side of the highway waiting for Roadside to tow them away. You don’t see them yelling at their kids for the umpteenth time for the day. You won’t witness the argument they’ve had with their boyfriend for the 5th time this week. And you definitely don’t see the moments they cry at night, just tired of it all.
I bet that perspective change made things feel a little better for you, amirite? Awesome! Be sure to keep these things in mind as often as possible as you remember that a picture doesn’t tell the whole story. Or in this case, a “perfect” social media page doesn’t spill all the tea behind someone’s life.
You are freakin’ amazing
Notice that I didn’t say your “life” is freakin’ amazing. I said YOU.
It is easy to believe someone is simply amazing by looking at their well- put together social media page filled with wonderful out of the country posts, all-paid trips to Cancun for hitting ranks in their business, and make-up forever “slayed” and “on point”.
But don’t get it twisted! Moments displayed with a filtered picture has nothing to do with who a person is. Nor should it make you question your own self-worth.
Truth is you don’t need a fancy life, or someone else’s life for that matter, to feel important. You are unique. Your voice matters. YOU matter. And the world wouldn’t be the same without you in it. So own it!
Contentment goes a long way
I said this before, but I will say it again for those of you who didn’t get it the first time—you do not need a special title in order to enjoy the life you have right now! Of course, you may not be where you would like to be or you may even hate your job, but still! Be thankful for who you are, what you have, and accept your situation as is.
Just as seasons change, the same applies for yourself and your circumstance. Where you are right now can change in a matter of a day. And God forbid that change be something worse off than how you thought things were. It can be so bad that your current situation may begin to look not so bad after all.
Of course I am exaggerating a bit, but hey, it could happen. I’m just trying to paint the picture of contentment. Enjoy every single moment of your life—good and bad—and take nothing for granted.
Hit that unfollow button
I am so thankful for the unfollow, block, and delete option! Like seriously, where would I be without it!? Some place hiding under a rock, that’s where!
If you haven’t done so already, browse through the list of people you follow. If you come across someone’s profile that makes you feel less than, unimportant, or your life has no value, UNFOLLOW THEM! (yes, the caps, boldness, and italic was highly necessary!) For real though! Life is already hard enough as it is, you don’t need anything or anyone else (especially from someone you probably don’t even know in real life) to add to that.
For myself personally, I choose to follow people who add value to my life, not take away from it. Those who don’t fall in that category…BYE!! Exit stage right, please!
And if you are wondering, just because you unfollow someone does not mean you are jealous of them. It simply means that they were portraying a life that shouts perfection and you don’t like it. The end. No one should feel worthless just by looking at someone’s profile page.
There is a difference between someone sharing the highs of their life but also let people know they are human and go through things just as you do. They don’t have to share their whole life on social media (I wouldn’t do it either) but no one should make it seem as though life is peachy all the time. That’s not realistic at all.
So save yourself the headache and unfollow, and do so freely.
Your best life is TODAY
You don’t have to be on a vacation or win the lottery to say you are living your best life. I’m not sure why or where that perspective that many people have these days came from, but it is far from the truth. Your best life is today, right now as you are reading this blog. Not when you get a better job, not when you earn multiple sources of incomes, not when you get married, and not when you get your first house. NOW!
We should all strive to not only make every day count, but also live each day with intentional enjoyment. You won’t ever get another “today” so do your best to live it up no matter what anyone says or thinks!
Living my best life daily,
Marie Lewis ♥